Sunday, March 29, 2020

Sunday Stealing--Alec Clayton


Hi folks--I've been away a while.  Work, school, the pandemic, and life in general has kept me busy.  In fact, I grabbed my work computer this morning to do some work, and I'd left it unplugged.  So, while it's charging, I thought I'd do a little meme-ing.  This is a good one, Bev. 

Play here if you are so inclined.

1. If there's a personal god, what quality would you most like that person to have (and why)?   

I’ve never been much for believing that there’s one all powerful god out there, but if there was, I’d really like them to be non-judgmental.  The judgey-ness (I know, not a word) is one of the things that always kept me from organized religion.  I’m a spiritual person, and I believe what you put out into the universe comes back to you.   Does that mean I’m perfect at not judging?  Nope, but I’d want a personal god to be. 

2. What's your death-row meal?  

It’s all about memories for me…

·       Chips and salsa.  The first time I had them was at a since closed Mexican place on Hwy. 90 in Biloxi, Mississippi.  I was 10, maybe.  I was blown away that they just brought them to the table and they were “free”.  It’s been my favorite snack food ever since.   
·       A fresh heirloom tomato with kosher salt and cracked pepper.  Didn’t our childhood tomatoes taste the absolute best?!  My gram always had them on our sandwiches at lunch, and my mother still slices them for every lunch and breakfast. 
·       My mom’s potato pancakes.  They are potato and onion, grated together (that was my job) and held together with a little egg.  They were fried in hot oil in a skillet.  My brother and I were allowed to choose our birthday meal every year and we both always choose the potato pancakes.  They were amazing! 
·       My husband’s chicken wings.  I have literally never had chicken wings as good as his.  It’s a four- step process, but the end result is a tasty, moist, grilled wing.  I like the flats, he likes the drumsticks, so it works. 
·       A super-sized fountain coke from McDonalds (why does theirs taste the absolute best, I wonder?)
·      My ex’s pecan pie for dessert.  He was a pastry chef when we married, and he made a pecan pie that was absolutely to die for.  No corn syrup (uggh), just milk, butter, sugar, eggs, homemade vanilla extract and crust, and a boatload of pecans.  Kind of like this one:  https://www.kingarthurflour.com/recipes/old-fashioned-pecan-pie-recipe

3. Assuming we make it through this outbreak with minimal loss of life, what do you think our big takeaway should be?  

Don't let game show hosts run the fucking country?  Or Republicans?  I don’t know.  I think it’s going to be the most humbling experience of our lifetimes, that’s for sure, and I think the cultural individualism of the American people is part of what’s holding us back.  The “it’s all about me” mentality isn’t going to work when it’s time to rebuild from this.  On the flip side, the “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” mentality might…

4. Whom do you find yourself missing more than you would've predicted?  

My family.  My Dad passed way a year ago, and the world still seems a bit faded without him in it.  Since I left home, I’ve always lived pretty far away from my parents and we both (my parents and me) moved all over the place all the time.  Now I’m in New Mexico, my mom is in South Carolina, and my brother is in Georgia.  I miss them a lot, for really the first time ever.  The distance really gets to me, I feel guilty about not being home, but no part of me wants to move back there.  It’s a conundrum that I can’t seem to reconcile.

5. What brings you the most joy? Not happiness, not contentment -- JOY.  

I don’t know that I can articulate what joy even is, or if I even experience it.  I posted this thing on Facebook the other day, and I cried with the beauty and hope of it.  Maybe that was joy?



6. Do you find yourself regretting anything you've said or done on social media?  

Not particularly.  I’ve always kept my feed pretty clean of anything controversial, political, mean, etc.  I don’t need my employer, the Board of Nursing, or any other entity associated with my job seeing me as the kind of person that posts regrettable things…

7. What are your favorite and least favorite things about your body and face?  

Well, the obvious.  My least favorite is my short, fat body.  The never-ending battle with my weight is exhausting (at least I’m winning at the moment).  My favorite thing are my toes.  I have nice toes.  As to my face, I’ve always like my cheekbones, but the post-menopausal chin hair realllllly pisses me off—it’s just a pain in the ass to deal with.

8. and your life?  

My favorite thing about my life is being able to wake up every day relatively healthy.  That right there alone is a blessing.  My least favorite thing is the aforementioned conundrum of living so far from my family.

9. How's the self-isolation affecting your libido?  

What libido?

10. Which three places in the physical universe would you most like to visit?   

Europe.  My number 1 bucket list item is a river cruise through Europe.  A tour of Japanese ryokan would be amazing.  And I’d love to go back to Puerto Rico.

11. On whom did you have a crush years ago? 

Some guy (I swear, I cannot remember his name) at my first real job.  He worked in some sort of engineering capacity and had gorgeous red hair.  He was nice to me, but had no interest.  Have you ever told them?  Nope. Never did.

12. How have your religious views changed since you were in high school?  

Nope.

13. If you could change one law, what would it be?   

Ban the death penalty. 

14. If you could add one commandment to the original ten, what would it be?   

Since I don’t know the 10 commandments off the top of my head, I’d just say “be kind—to everyone, and not just everyone like you”