Thursday, December 2, 2021

Thursday Thirteen -- 13 Things I've Been Mulling Over Lately


1.  Mom is aging.  Yeah, well, I knew that.  She turns 81 in January.  But recently, she seems "older".  By her own admission, tech is getting harder and harder for her to deal with.  This from a woman who was a scientist, and known in her group of peers for "being good with computers".   It really pisses her off and frustrates her to no end that her phone and computer are "too complicated".  She doesn't watch TV much anymore, because all the streaming confounds her. 

2.  Mom is aging, part 2.  I lost my phone in the house the Thanksgiving Day (yes, it happens) and she texted me wondering where I was (I was scheduled to pick her up at 130pm).  This was at 11.  She sent me a string of progressively more panicked texts, wondering if I was coming, was I ok, thinking maybe it was 130.  This was followed by a call to my brother (in Georgia, mind you), who then called me (I still hadn't found my phone yet).  At no time did ANYONE call or text my husband, who is in the same damn house as me.  What the actual.  My brother was faintly amused by the whole thing, and my Mom was embarrassed. 

3.  Mom is aging, part 3.  The events of the last couple of years have really taken the spark out of my Mom.  Dad passing away, selling the house and moving from South Carolina to here, and then COVID....she feels defeated and tired and diminished.  Which really makes me sad.

Well, that's enough about that.  

4.  The whole Mississippi abortion thing.  I listed to part of it on the radio yesterday, and skimmed the headlines this morning.  I'm still just reeling that the court is headed down this road (overturning Roe v. Wade) again.  It really brings home the damage the previous person in the White House did--that will haunt us for years to come.  And that was stacking the courts.

5.  Student Loans.  I managed to get a forbearance for mine for a few months, which will give me time to work my 2nd job and get the money to pay the damn things.  My brain goes round and round on was it worth it?  Getting the MBA got me the new job, so there is that.  In hindsight, getting the MSN was a complete waste of money.  Now the chickens are coming home to roost.  It will be interesting to see what, if anything, the Government plans on doing when ALL the millions and millions of chickens for everyone come home in February.  

6.  Giving myself permission.  This has been a thing for me lately.  Trying to be kinder to myself and not work myself in to an exhaustion like I did over Thanksgiving.  I gave myself permission to NOT put up the Luminaria (the most PIA of the outside Christmas decorations) this year.  Or to put them up late.  That pretty much kept me from falling apart on Sunday.  I also gave myself permission to severely downscale my pie-in-the-sky Tassie project of making Christmas cookies for the people on our street.  Why I thought I had the time or the energy.... I'm going to make a few, closer to Christmas, for a few out of town friends, us, my Mom, and a couple of people on the street.  Not eleventy-million dozen like I originally planned.

7.  The new part-time (10-20 hours a week) side gig starts Monday.   Laptop from them is on the way.  

8.  Trying to figure out an activity to do with Mom on Saturday.  I'm going to reach out to her today and lob the ball into her court.  

9.  Looking forward to River of Lights.  I've never been, and it's one of the top 10 Christmas light shows in the country.  It's held in the Albuquerque Botanical Gardens.

10.  Made plans for dinner with my 2 former assistants.  We were fast friends back in the day, like 3 years ago, and have managed to get together a couple of times a year since.  Other than that, we don't really talk anymore.  This feels a little forced (by the one of us who is not working by choice, she doesn't have to).  It may be the last time, I don't know.  I'm trying to keep an open mind.

11.  I hate my hours.  I really miss working 6am to 230pm.  Having that extra hour in the afternoon off really gave me time to get appointments done, etc.  I really would like to work four 10 hour shifts, but don't feel like I have enough seniority to ask.  

12.  Super happy with how the garage turned out.  It's nice to have a little more room in there.  We seriously need to consider doing something with shelving or hanger type things to get stuff UP and out of the way.  Project for another day.

13.  Cooking has been fun lately.  I've joined a couple of Facebook groups to get more ideas, and cookbooks are a big Christmas item on my wish list this year.  I love trying new things.


  1. Growing older is not for wimps, my sister always says. I relate as a daughter and as an oldering person. I too am shuddering over this super conservation Supreme Court and think the Dems have to start fighting fire with fire, get rid of the filibuster to protect voting rights for one thing.

  2. Hi! I'm new to your blog - at least I think I am LOL. I feel like I used to follow a blog years and years ago that posted with the username "Me, Myself, and I" so maybe it was you!? Not sure. Anyhow...I hoped over from 13 Thursday. Your thoughts and words resonate with me on several issues and concerns. HUGS!

  3. I really am glad you decided not make eleventy-million cookies. That would be a lot of cookies. I am sorry about your mom. It is hard to watch a parent age.

  4. Watching parents get older is one of the hardest things ever.


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